From the Beginning

It was December 31, 2003 and I was saying “See ya later” to my mom.  I was leaving my mom’s home for good to live on my own.  That was the day that I moved to Atlanta.  I wanted to be in Atlanta when the clock struck 12 a.m. on January 1, 2004.  You know the saying “whatever you are doing when the new year comes in is what you will be doing the rest of the year” and I wanted to be in Atlanta for the rest of the year.  I had a plan almost.  I didn’t have a job yet but this is when I was more carefree and didn’t have any major bills and when being an adult wasn’t that important to me.  Let’s be clear I have never wanted to be an adult.  Some things about it looked fun but most things about it never appealed to me so I have never been here for it.  Since the 9th grade I have always wanted to live in Atlanta, “The City”, is what I would always say.  I never dreamed of leaving near home or anywhere else.  I used to spend time down here during the summers with my Aunt and I fell in love.  Atlanta is the city that there is so much going on but you don’t have to be a part of it all.  I am a homebody for the most part but the fact that I can go somewhere at any given time has always appealed to me.  The city doesn’t completely shut down.  I wish the pictures that I have posted had dates on them but this is just a glimpse of how I set my goals and made them happen.

I moved to Atlanta and knew NOTHING about being an adult.  I had to learn sort of quick but I am still learning every day.  I have been in Atlanta trying to find my way for so many years and I have finally found myself although it will be a process that evolves for the rest of my life.  I left my mom’s home with no idea of who I was as a woman or who I was destined to become.  I had an idea of what I wanted to do but not who I wanted to be.  I just knew that I didn’t want to live in the country for the rest of my life.  I wanted to be a city girl with a country heart and background.  I quickly started to learn what I didn’t like about being an adult and I don’t care to count the many times that I wanted to and threatened myself to move back home to my mom.  But I am a pretty stubborn lady and I have been determined to make it happen for myself down here and it hasn’t changed.  Set back after set back has come but progress has always been made and every time I think it is time to give up God shows me just why it isn’t time for me to quit.  I have always been in a transition.  I used to ask the question most of you are asking now “what is my purpose on this earth?”.  It finally set in that I am here to help others move through the transitions of life and live their purpose in the best way possible. This didn’t finally click completely until this year.   I had the idea a couple of years ago and of course started putting the plan into action last year but it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that it finally became super real and clear to me.  God has a funny way of saying be still and see what I am trying to show you.

I have always been the one who wants to learn my lessons through others.  I don’t like for experience to be my teacher but I will learn from others experiences all day long.  But I had to sit down and really think about everything that I have been through since I have started this journey of becoming an adult and God said it is time for you to share.   So this is the beginning of me becoming more open with you guys and taking you back to the beginning of my journey in Atlanta and becoming an adult.  This will show you why I am qualified to help you on your path to setting goals and living your greatest purpose in life.  I hope that you will stick around and relive this ride with me as I look back at my journal entries and walk back through my journey.

Until next time live life simply while making it extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony

Satisfied Versus Settling

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If being satisfied for you means settling for me then I will never be satisfied…

People have told me that I’m never satisfied and when they would say it I would question myself and really wonder if I was asking for too much. But what I realized one morning is that my satisfied and their satisfied doesn’t represent the same thing. You may be OK with just having ham on your sandwich but I want ham, cheese and mayo. We all want things done our way and granted that isn’t going to happen all of the time but it doesn’t stop you from wanting what you want. If I want my grass cut a certain way and I’m paying you for it then please cut it the way that I ask you to. Your satisfied could mean settling to me and my satisfied could mean too much for you and I’m not about settling because I’m destined for so much more and so are you if you look past what’s in front of you.

Moral of this short post…Never let someone make you feel bad for wanting the life that you want for yourself.  Your vision is not their vision.

Are you satisfied or settling for where you are in your life?
Until next time live life simply but make it extraordinary.
XO,
Zony

 

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Growing Through

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“Is it me?? A question I constantly ask myself … Insecure in my own thoughts. Insecure in all that I do and say and try to process… Always over processing and over analyzing and killing myself in my own head. Crazy thoughts that I go through. It’s always an evaluation in my head. Ongoing … How do I make it stop? Comfortable on the outside but so many questions on the inside. How am I able to be transparent in a safe place? Who am I really safe with? Right now I don’t even feel safe with myself. Always looking for another something another beginning another another and another. How do I get through this? Keeping everything in as to not burden anyone else but who’s always there to lend a listening ear to help or just be a comfort. Where is my comfort? Trusting and listening always smiling but for what is life like this … A roller coaster just ready to get to the end of this ride and walk away 100% confident. Walking into some situations with my eyes wide open knowing it’s not for me but at the same time because I know what’s going to happen gives me some kind of peace. Walking into other situations trusting and not knowing and then getting hurt because I didn’t know what was a head of me. Always ready for a risk but only those that I can kind of control. Headaches come and stay because I seek a box to keep myself to keep my surroundings controlled. Is it me??? Shrugs… Got to get out of my own head … Smh at myself.”

I posted this on my first blog in 2014…my my my I have come a long way.  Today feeling a lot more confident in who I am and knowing exactly what I want in life.  My purpose is clearer than ever although some times I do stop and ask God if He is sure (I still have my moments).  Life is funny sometimes and I have really started to embrace everything that comes my way good and bad(even if I don’t like it).  If I resist it only hinders my progress and I am tired of being stuck because I want to be rebellious to what I don’t like going on at the moment.  Disclaimer:  I am a super rebellious person.  So anything that doesn’t fit into my vision I am not here for it.  I am getting better though, one day at a time.  Back to the post, I realized in reading my previous post that my purpose requires me to hold other people up more than they are going to hold me up.  Everyone that you are meant to hold down isn’t meant to hold you down.  Your confidence doesn’t depend on them or anyone else.  Love yourself because it is best for you and it makes for a better life.

Your life should reflect confidence, boldness, and braveness no matter what your purpose is.  Although it is a daily decision you have to make it and walk in it.  Do know that distractions are going to come but that is when you fight harder for what you want.

I want my friends, family and clients to know that they can always count on me to hold them down no matter what they are going through and when that moment of realization hit I was completely OK with where I am going and the situations that I have been through.  You have to get to a point where you realize that your life is so much bigger than you because it isn’t for you.  You are here for the growth of others and when you accept that I think you will go through life a little less stressed, worried, and unhappy.  I will probably mention this more often because we have to be reminded that when things hit us its just a growing spurt for us to help someone that is coming behind us.  Let your resilience shine through.  Embrace it all and grow.

I hope this helped someone…Comment and let me know what you are dealing with and let me hold you down while you grow through.

Until next time continue to live simply while making it extraordinary.

XO,

Zony

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Purpose Talk

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I say it all of the time but I’ll say it again … There is a process to your progress. You have to go through to get through … Press, Push, Pursue. Keep going … Nothing happens overnight. Enjoy the process and the journey.

It’s September All Ready Sheesh…

September

Man where has the year gone…it seems like this year has flown by.  So much has happened and I am still processing it all everyday.  But life is pretty dang good these days and I am just living one day at a time.

Now lets get to September, as I told you at the beginning of August, at the beginning of the year I titled my months because I wanted to live on purpose and be consistent in 2016.  My word for the year is Consistent and the word for September is Intentional.  When I started naming them I wasn’t strategic in naming them I just knew what words I wanted to live by during this year and implement into my life.

As I sat in my car trying to figure out what I wanted to be intentional about and how I was going to get it across to you all, my faithful few. I came up with nothing 😳.  But as fate would have it I had to take my braids out that same night and instead of watching one of my favorite shows “Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives” as I always do on Friday nights, I decided to get on YouTube and try to get some direction and wisdom.  I came across a video of Oprah Winfrey giving an empowerment talk at the 2016 Essence Festival. One of the main points that she drove home was that there came a time in her life that she decided to be intentional in every aspect of her life.

Now I was about to figure out what to change the word to if I couldn’t figure out how to explain and use this word for September and then it clicked while I was in the shower.  I have to start being more intentional with myself, with my time, with my space, with God, with prayer, with my family, with my finances, with my business, with my love, and with my life completely.  Although I have been accomplishing a lot of my goals this year, I’ve kind of just been flowing with the waves of life lately.  So September is the month to be more intentional – with you and everything that you want around you.

Goals for September:

  • Be intentional in scheduling my days.
  • Be intentional with my Bible study time.
  • Be intentional with branding and building Simply My Purpose.
  • Be intentional in building different streams of income.