Setting Your Goals and Crushing Them

The general universal rule to setting goals is to set them SMART:  Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Timely.  This method is tried and true for most people in most instances.  However, I am different and using this method, only made goal setting more complicated for me.  One day I was reading Nicole Antionette’s blog and she had an exercise to help you set goals and I tried it. There were a lot of steps to her process. I liked some of it I and made it work for me.  In 2012, I started developing my own system of setting goals and it has been a real hit for me.  I have to be honest though, I have never completed 100% of my goals in any given year but I have gotten more done with the exercise I am about share than years before.  I am excited to finally have my system on paper and see it working for others.

I ultimately take this exercise to a vision board and I love how it comes together.  For a couple of years I tried to do the traditional vision board with the magazine clippings and it never worked for me.  It just really seemed all over the place and dysfunctional; in turn, my year would reflect that.

I am going to break the steps down for you and give you a little instruction on how to use the workbook so that you will be able to utilize it in the best way.

Step 1:  Reflection

I take some time to reflect on the past year. I think about all that I have accomplished and what I need to continue to work on. What I could have done differently and what I will take with me in the future. It gives you a chance to reassess the goals that you set.

Step 2:  Purpose Areas

Purpose areas are the main areas of your life that you want to set goals for such as career, health, love, family and so on.  Additionally, those areas are where you want to grow and build.  Within these areas, decide on 3 to 4 points of action for each one.

Step 3: Core Words

When you finish building your purpose areas, go back through them and come up with a core word for the year.  I like to set a word for my year to live up to and practice for everyday living. Over the years I have used growth, brave, consistent, for example.  This works so well for me – it’s amazing how seeing that word everyday reinforces your actions for the day.

For 2016 my word of focus has been “consistent”.  Each area of my board required me to be consistent with each task.  They weren’t tasks that just required me to do one thing one time but more of required daily tasks to get closer to my goal. I didn’t plan it that way but I am glad that it came together that way because I have been known to not follow through with things and this required me to.  As I reflect back on this year it has definitely been an overall good year with its sprinkle of not so good things.

Step 4: Feelings, Feelings, Feelings

How do you want to feel during the year?  This is one of my favorite steps.  When I am building my vision board, I will choose colors, stickers, scriptures, sayings and shapes that will reflect how I want to feel for the year.  Not only am I reinforcing my core word when I look at the vision board but I am reinforcing how I want every day to feel for the year.  Do I want to feel accomplished, happy, loved, creative…so many options.

Step 5: Vision Board Creation

Now the fun part. It is time to get creative and put together your vision board. There are so many ways you can do it. My suggestion is to make it easy to follow for you.  See below for some examples of different ways to put it together. Take some pieces from them but ultimately make it your own.

Now comes the good part, I am making this workbook available to you for free…Yep FREE!!!  I spent some time getting it like I wanted it and I have tested it on others and it has worked for them as well.  So I am excited for you to get it and get to work on your goals and dreams.  What are you waiting for?

Send me an email at hello@simplymypurpose.com and type “GOALS” in the subject line, hit send and I will get your workbook right to you.

Happy planning…send me pictures of your boards when you finished them and if you have any questions please feel free to reach out.  I am always willing to help.

Can’t wait to hear from you,

Zony 🙂

 

 

What About Your Friends

Well HELLO!!!!

It has always been so hard for me to make friends and yep it’s my fault but to my defense I am socially awkward.  I don’t like large groups of people and I am a super quiet person until I am really comfortable (I don’t know ya’ll like that for real for real lol).  I don’t really approach strangers.  You know the saying “That person never meets a stranger,” well I am that person where everyone is a stranger to me.  When the saying “No New Friends” came out I was definitely okay with that phrase.  However, it just so happened as I was riding around recently, I thought about how my friends really pulled me through last year and I really like having a group of people that I can count on and just be myself with. This reflection was sparked by the recent passing of my grandfather.

It has always been easy for me to walk away from friendships when I knew they weren’t right for me.  I think that I get this from my parents because I have never really seen them hang out with friends.  It has always been their siblings and you can’t really walk away from family but friends…Honey!,  I would be like nope this ain’t right and I am not with it.  But the passing of my dear granddaddy allowed me to see a different perspective.  So I wasn’t really calling anyone about my grandfather’s death so I did what we do now a days and posted a picture of him and a quick little sentence on Facebook, nothing lengthy at all…see screenshot below.  But Facebook is tricky… it says I have sooo many friends (814 to be exact 😕 ) but not even a handful of those “friends” really know me.  Remember on Facebook people only give you what they want you to see and in my case I have been very quiet about my life lately and only trying to spread positivity and build a business.   I received so many comments on the post (73 to be exact) … please know that I appreciate everyone who sent a comment and took time to say something to me.

Mr. Evans…He hated social media…I hear him now saying “Don’t you put me on that internet” lol

The passing of my grandfather had me in a weird place.  At first I wanted to be mad at God for taking him but I  just saw him on Thanksgiving and saw that he was ready to go (Ready to leave me though?? how dare he).  I thought that I had made peace with the fact that he would be transitioning soon but of course it hit me like a ton of bricks and has really opened my eyes to my friendships and relationships.  My granddaddy was the apple of my eye.  I could really go and talk to him about anything and he would give it to me real and raw with no chaser at all.  I am however now thinking about friendships and relationships and especially those relationships where you can be yourself no matter what are needed.  No man is or should be an island.  Not that my friends have to prove themselves to me because they definitely DO NOT, I know who is true and genuine, but this situation gave me a new appreciation for them.  Knowing that I can count on them no matter what even when I’m snapping because my last grandparent is gone and they are still there for me. Even when this situation just sent me into another whirlwind after I just kind of caught my breath from the last whirlwind that happened in 2016.  Through it all, my friendships have shown me what love and loyalty really means.

Be the friend that you want in your own life.  I haven’t always been that person but I think that I have truly grown up to really recognize and understand true friendship. It truly is a beautiful thing.  Some friendships aren’t meant to last and you have to be in a place where you recognize that and are okay with it. You know the saying REASON, SEASON, LIFETIME… I am grateful for them all but those LIFETIMES I am truly grateful for.  I think having a firm foundation with friends before moving to Atlanta made it easy for me to dismiss making friends in Atlanta because I’ve always known that my friends in South Carolina are lifetime friends and I could just drive 2 hours to see and spend time with them.  But as I have gotten older I realize that I need and want more friendships and relationships.  I don’t really want to be that awkward silent girl in the big group but I am still ok with being her (nothing gets past me, I see everything, get a friend like me lol) but for real, we all need an outlet and someone to lean on.  So don’t sit by yourself at the table all of the time.  Go say “HEY” to the other person sitting at the table across the room by themselves.  This year I plan to build more friendships and relationships so if I am texting or calling you too much (no I don’t want to borrow no money or need a favor) just tell me to chill out but I am making an honest effort at being a better friend no matter what.

So this year take time to rekindle friendships, rebuild friendships or just build new friendships.  Don’t wait on the other person to call you or send a quick text “Just saying hello”, your phone is working just fine go ahead and press “SEND”.  Create moments where friends ultimately become family I promise you that you will not regret it.  Go for it; people just want to be loved and genuinely loving someone you can never go wrong.  Alright enough reading get to calling, texting, emailing, inboxing, and popping up (call first call first call first lol)

What kind of friend are you and what kind of friend do you want to be?  Do you even have friends … lets connect?

Well that is all for now, leave me a comment lets chit chat but until then as always thanks for visiting and reading and until next time live simply but make it extraordinary!!!!!

Zony  🙂

 

Faithful August

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So before 2016 started I sat down and labeled my months kind of like giving them a theme because I want to live 2016 consistently with every move that I made I was being strategic about planning. So I labeled them as follows:

January – Strategy
February – Love
March – Implement
April – Celebrate
May – New Steps
June – Check in
July – Improvement
August – Faithful

For the most part I have been following through with getting things done related to these actions for each month. Some months have been a little more trying than others but I’m pushing through and making them happen as much as I can. Going into August has made me take a moment and just think about how I want the rest of the year to play out and I want to remain consistent in my focus and building. Building my business, building me, building my relationship with God, rebuilding my friendships, building new friendships, building love and confidence back up within myself and those around me that need it, just building and being faithful has a lot to do with that. So August I will be faithful in building and rebuilding the life and legacy that I wish to leave and just continue living this life.

Comment and let me know how you want the month of August to play out for you.

Talk to you soon

Zony