From the Beginning

It was December 31, 2003 and I was saying “See ya later” to my mom.  I was leaving my mom’s home for good to live on my own.  That was the day that I moved to Atlanta.  I wanted to be in Atlanta when the clock struck 12 a.m. on January 1, 2004.  You know the saying “whatever you are doing when the new year comes in is what you will be doing the rest of the year” and I wanted to be in Atlanta for the rest of the year.  I had a plan almost.  I didn’t have a job yet but this is when I was more carefree and didn’t have any major bills and when being an adult wasn’t that important to me.  Let’s be clear I have never wanted to be an adult.  Some things about it looked fun but most things about it never appealed to me so I have never been here for it.  Since the 9th grade I have always wanted to live in Atlanta, “The City”, is what I would always say.  I never dreamed of leaving near home or anywhere else.  I used to spend time down here during the summers with my Aunt and I fell in love.  Atlanta is the city that there is so much going on but you don’t have to be a part of it all.  I am a homebody for the most part but the fact that I can go somewhere at any given time has always appealed to me.  The city doesn’t completely shut down.  I wish the pictures that I have posted had dates on them but this is just a glimpse of how I set my goals and made them happen.

I moved to Atlanta and knew NOTHING about being an adult.  I had to learn sort of quick but I am still learning every day.  I have been in Atlanta trying to find my way for so many years and I have finally found myself although it will be a process that evolves for the rest of my life.  I left my mom’s home with no idea of who I was as a woman or who I was destined to become.  I had an idea of what I wanted to do but not who I wanted to be.  I just knew that I didn’t want to live in the country for the rest of my life.  I wanted to be a city girl with a country heart and background.  I quickly started to learn what I didn’t like about being an adult and I don’t care to count the many times that I wanted to and threatened myself to move back home to my mom.  But I am a pretty stubborn lady and I have been determined to make it happen for myself down here and it hasn’t changed.  Set back after set back has come but progress has always been made and every time I think it is time to give up God shows me just why it isn’t time for me to quit.  I have always been in a transition.  I used to ask the question most of you are asking now “what is my purpose on this earth?”.  It finally set in that I am here to help others move through the transitions of life and live their purpose in the best way possible. This didn’t finally click completely until this year.   I had the idea a couple of years ago and of course started putting the plan into action last year but it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that it finally became super real and clear to me.  God has a funny way of saying be still and see what I am trying to show you.

I have always been the one who wants to learn my lessons through others.  I don’t like for experience to be my teacher but I will learn from others experiences all day long.  But I had to sit down and really think about everything that I have been through since I have started this journey of becoming an adult and God said it is time for you to share.   So this is the beginning of me becoming more open with you guys and taking you back to the beginning of my journey in Atlanta and becoming an adult.  This will show you why I am qualified to help you on your path to setting goals and living your greatest purpose in life.  I hope that you will stick around and relive this ride with me as I look back at my journal entries and walk back through my journey.

Until next time live life simply while making it extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony

Change Happens…

You know the saying “When someone shows you who they are believe them” I hate that saying only because it makes the assumption that people cannot and will not ever change.  We as people are forever changing and evolving hence why we aren’t cave men any longer.  Granted there are those people out there that will not change because they are okay with where they are and what they are doing but the majority of the world in my opinion doesn’t want to be the same all of their life.  People have the right to change and not be confined to their pasts.  I believe in change because I am a prime example of change.  I am forever growing and changing.  I don’t make the same mistakes I used to.  I don’t walk the same path I did 5 or 6 years ago.  I am ever evolving and so are others.  Allow people the opportunity to grow and don’t write them off.  I am a sucker for restoration I learned this from one of my mentors a couple of years ago and when he broke it down to me it made so much sense.  People are allowed to apologize and grow from where they are.  Don’t keep throwing the past up in their face and don’t go looking for them always to disappoint you.

I truly believe in forgiveness there is no need in me holding a grudge and I used to be the QUEEN of holding a grudge but life is too short.  It is time for us to admit when we make a mistake, apologize, forgive, restore and keep going and growing.  When someone shows you who they are just know that they are forever changing and growing.  Be an encouragement to those that need it and don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes and wrong doings just love them and let them grow.   Change happens…

Just my thoughts…

Zony 🙂

2016 Wrap Up

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My life has been a series of getting started but never finishing for so many reasons.  I didn’t have the money, I was bored, it didn’t look like I wanted, they didn’t fit into my plan, they were just too idk (insert something stupid there), but it was always something. This year I decided to create CONSISTENCY in my life. Life starts to happen more when you make a decision. I was tired of giving up and not pushing or fighting for what I wanted because it just didn’t seem right at the time or it didn’t look how I wanted it to look. Out of my 35 years of living, 2016 has been the best and the worst year of my life.

I got a full understanding of who I am and who I’m growing to be. I found out how strong I am and got a glimpse of how much stronger I am going to be. I got a good look at how I love and how deep it can get. I understand how resilient I am and how tough times in my life prepared me for this year. I’ve always seen people for who they are and I do my best not to judge them but this year gave me a better glimpse of who those around me are and who I want around me.  I’ve always had a relationship with God but at times I would definitely put Him on the back burner but this year has opened up another type of relationship with Him that I never want to lose and only want to get stronger.

I’ve said it before life is like a roller coaster that never ends but you have to decide what type of roller coaster you want to be on. You are the operator, you can speed it up or slow it down but you aren’t always going to know when the next hill, loop, spin, or drop is going to come, you can only prepare for as much as you can. 2016 has been one to write home about. I’m looking forward to 2017 because the future is brighter than ever and with all that I’ve learned about myself and seen the vision for this roller coaster is about to be the best ride yet. I’m holding on in some areas but I’m throwing my hands up and throwing caution to the wind in others. I’m getting prepared for this next round of dips, loops, spins, and drops and I’m excited about it. You know how you’re waiting in line to get on the roller coaster and the closer you get the more nervous you get…the butterflies are flipping in your stomach…that’s how I am right now and this time I’m more excited than I am scared. 2016 you were an emotional ride but I think that I am ready for 2017 and all that it has to offer.

What does your roller coaster look like?

I hope that you all are getting prepared for the 2017 roller coaster and I can’t wait to hear all about it.

Until next time live simply while doing it extraordinary.

Zony

Satisfied Versus Settling

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If being satisfied for you means settling for me then I will never be satisfied…

People have told me that I’m never satisfied and when they would say it I would question myself and really wonder if I was asking for too much. But what I realized one morning is that my satisfied and their satisfied doesn’t represent the same thing. You may be OK with just having ham on your sandwich but I want ham, cheese and mayo. We all want things done our way and granted that isn’t going to happen all of the time but it doesn’t stop you from wanting what you want. If I want my grass cut a certain way and I’m paying you for it then please cut it the way that I ask you to. Your satisfied could mean settling to me and my satisfied could mean too much for you and I’m not about settling because I’m destined for so much more and so are you if you look past what’s in front of you.

Moral of this short post…Never let someone make you feel bad for wanting the life that you want for yourself.  Your vision is not their vision.

Are you satisfied or settling for where you are in your life?
Until next time live life simply but make it extraordinary.
XO,
Zony

 

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