Goal Reboot

Half way through the year and I am feeling pretty amazing.  How are you feeling? I’ll wait…

So this is just a little check up or check in.  I am sure most of you set goals or resolutions this year and I just wanted to take some time to send some encouragement your way.  I have had my moments of giving up within these last six months.  One major thing that keeps me going is my purpose.  I was born for the things that I have been blessed to do such as write these posts, encourage others, build community, and help as many people as I can.  We are all here to serve others but there are different ways to serve and we have to find our own unique way of doing so.  So with all of that being said, I set some goals for this year and I have found a new boost of energy when achieving them.

At the beginning of the year I set my word for the year and it is PREPARE. I definitely feel like I am being prepared for some major things coming up and I have to daily remind myself that with preparation comes patience (impatient as hell), faith and belief.  I’m being tested in all of these right now everyday.  I choose to stay consistent in where God is leading me and take at least one step a day to my goals and dreams.

One major goal was to put more time into building my business and my brand.  I started really putting into practice the scripture “Faith without works is dead”.   I used to be that person that was like if I ask God for it that is all that I need to do to get it.  Foolishness, so not true at all.  I have really started putting in the work. Making sure that I am posting everyday, learning all that I can to make the business better and make it grow. I want Simply My Purpose to be one of the best Purpose coaching boutiques in the world. I have so many dreams and goals tied into this business and I can’t wait to see them all come together.

Another goal is to finish my degree. I have been putting this thing off so much because I don’t have a real reason other than I have times of laziness and I just don’t want to study for the two test that I need to take to complete the process. But recently I had a little bit of a scare when it came to not having my degree (details of that coming in a future post). Thanking God that it didn’t disrupt my next move. But I have set a date to take each test and I am studying for them and plan to have them completed by the middle of the third quarter of this year. Wish me luck !!!!

Another goal was to finish my weight loss challenge from last year. I wanted to lose 60 lbs by the end of 2016 and I made it to 50lbs. I had a few set backs but I am now 4 lbs away from my goal weight and decided to go another 10 lbs to get under 200lbs although I’m not sure about this skinny look on me. But I’m proud and happy all at the same time because I never thought that I would be disciplined enough to do any of this.

I also made a goal to live more, do more and spend more time with family and friends.  The living part has just recently taken off and I’m excited while I thought others were limiting me I realize that I was really limiting myself and I’m hear for the living.  I still don’t do a lot other than working a lot (I got these bills) but I recently just really got on my grind and it is all coming together and easing up.  Hanging with family and friends well I am definitely doing more of that and reaching out more.  I don’t want to be that introverted friend all of the time that’s never around.  So I have started hanging a little more and spending a little more time outside of my home.

Prayer and spending time with God was a major goal for me this year because I be slipping.  I make time with Him daily and I make sure that I am listening more than I am talking.  Building this relationship is the most important thing to me because I have had my doubts as to whether or not He is listening to me and moving around in my life.  But He has shown me over and over again that He is there and He has me covered.  So if I don’t do anything else throughout the day I make sure I give God His time.  What a difference it has made in my life, in my faith, in my relationships, within myself. Truly the best goal that I set for myself.

A couple of ways to get your mojo back with achieving these goals…

  1. Remember your “Why”. Why did you set this goal?  Do you still really want it?  On a scale of 1 to 10 where is it in your priority list? 
  2. Take a step toward the goal.  Just one small step will get you moving again.  JUST ONE!!!! 
  3. Reach out to someone close to you for encouragement and/or a kick in the butt to get moving. 

I have a challenge starting on June 18.  The challenge is called #doitwithpurpose.  For the next 30 days, I am challenging myself, you and everyone else to set one goal that you really want to get done now and post every day one step that you have taken to accomplish that one goal.  The goal for this challenge is to give you the boost that you need to accomplish your goals, to connect you with others that are doing the same thing and to build a community of encouragers.  I am so excited about this challenge.  So we get started on June 18 and with every post use the hashtag #doitwithpurpose and tag me also.  Comment and let me know if you are up for the challenge.

Do you need a reboot in achieving your goals for this year?  Have you fallen off and need some encouragement and guidance? Let me help you, get in touch with me.

Until next time, live simply but extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony 🙂

Prayer Warrior: Who ME?

When did I become a praying person but wait when did I become a prayer warrior?  I woke up one day and was like when did I start praying for everything, all of the time.  I caught it one day when I was doing a live video on Facebook for an outreach event that me and my best friend started doing 2 years ago.  I was doing the video and I was thanking those that had already donated to the cause and I said “Thank you, In Jesus name, Amen”.  I got so tickled at myself.  I was like where did this girl come from. But I have become that prayer lady and I am actually like super excited about it.  Praying has become such a part of me.  I wake up praying, I pray for people that my flesh would really like to punch in the face, I pray for people that I don’t know, I just pray, literally for everything.  But then there was that one day that I didn’t want to pray and this next question slapped me in the face on that very same day.  Keep reading…

So one day I was asked if I get tired of praying for others and my stuff all of the time???  The question threw me but I’m glad that it was a text message and not a face to face question (if you know me you know that my face talks more than the words that come out of my mouth) because it felt like an in my face type of question.  I had a serious gut check when I read that question.  My completely honest, without any tact answer started to come because remember I said I didn’t want to pray that day but I took a second and asked God to please give me an answer and the answer given was “I just do what I am led to do”.  Seems cliché but it is totally the truth.  I pray as I am led to pray.  It was the realest answer for myself because that is literally how my prayer life happened.  I am really not sure what she wanted to hear but that is one of those questions where I wasn’t going to do any follow up or explanation.  I left it at that and I knew that there needed to be no follow up when no follow up questions came (look at God, He knew I wasn’t ready).

Disclaimer:  I AM COMPLETELY AND PERFECTLY HUMAN.

Truth be told I do get in my feelings when I see other people’s prayers being answered, things that they have asked me to pray for getting answered but it doesn’t stop me from praying for them or for me.  One of my friends told me that I have a direct line to God because they received confirmation.  Some days I don’t know about that direct line because I don’t feel like He is answering my prayers.  One of my favorite business women Myleik said something recently that made me stop and think…”Feelings aren’t Facts”.  Just because I don’t feel like He isn’t answering my prayers doesn’t mean that He isn’t answering them.  Some days I still push back and try not to pray but I always get reminded that me not praying is hurting me more than it is hurting God.   Prayer is a necessity like water you have to have it in your life in order to sustain yourself.  It builds relationship with God and that is the most important relationship that you could have in your life.

So when did I become this prayer warrior?  When I really understood that this life I’m living is bigger than me.  That what I go through isn’t for me but for the people that I am called to help.  That this life is to be an example to others.  When I fully understood that, I started to pray so much more purposefully because I knew that He had to be 100% in the mix.  I can’t do this thing by myself.  I don’t mind being a prayer warrior and believe you me I still have my days of push back and I don’t want to pray but I will eventually give in and get the prayer out.  His will is bigger than mine so I have to be obedient to His will and Word.

This post is probably one of the hardest pieces that I have written.  I couldn’t find a balance between being transparent without being too transparent.  I am in a weird place with prayer right now and I know that it is a stretching and patient season for me.  So my prayer is that you will see my heart in this post and understand that PRAYER is totally where its at and you definitely need to develop a prayer life if you haven’t already.  Don’t know where to start just start with the Lord’s prayer in Matthew 6 and moving from there just ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words and thoughts and you will be amazed at how it will start to flow out of you.

I hope this helps some one.  If you need prayer send me an email or call me.  If you want more of these types of posts let me know also.  Leave a comment lets talk…

Until next time, live simply while making it extraordinary.

XOXO,
Zony 🙂

Remain

Remain in God
Remain in Jesus
Remain in the Holy Spirit

Remain was a theme of a Bible study that I was doing and although I have been a little slack in getting it completed. It has been a subtle theme around me lately yet a strong reminder that when I start to lose faith and start to doubt myself and what I am purposed to do I have to remain focused, remain determined, remain productive and remain myself.  I have definitely lost myself a couple of times during my life time but I have become very wise in my growing up.  Again growing up sucks but in order to become better you have to grow up.  In order to walk in your purpose you have to grow up.  I am learning this whole responsibility concept on another level (lets be clear I have always been pretty responsible but I have never liked it).  I honestly just want to disappear into a dream most days because it is so much easier there.  But the Bible study has shown me a different way.  Too often we give up and giving up most times only sets us back and prolongs us from getting to our destination.  The road gets rough and tough.  The road gets exhausting.  The road gets dim but you have to remain in Jesus to maintain yourself.  So stay encouraged while walking in your purpose or whatever direction you are trying to move forward in.  Tough times come but they don’t last.  Remain true to you and what you believe in while going through.

Until next time live simply while making it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

Purpose Talk

Everyone isn’t going to understand your risks or steps because they weren’t given your dream, your purpose, your vision, or your passion. Sometimes you just have to move in silence and let it all come together when it needs to. Don’t be discouraged by those that can’t see what you see, they aren’t supposed to.