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In a perfect world …
We would all wear smiles, genuine smiles

We would all help each other no matter what

There would be no broken hearts

There would be no outsiders 

There would be understanding and wisdom flowing 

There would be no regrets 

There would be acknowledgement of God at all times 

Eve would have never eaten the apple and convinced Adam to as well

We would be free of sin and anguish

We would have everything that we needed and wanted 

There would be no debt 

There would be no shortage of love 

There would be no wars

There would be no shortage of resources and givers 

There would be no drama and mess 

In a perfect world…

Prayer Warrior: Who ME?

When did I become a praying person but wait when did I become a prayer warrior?  I woke up one day and was like when did I start praying for everything, all of the time.  I caught it one day when I was doing a live video on Facebook for an outreach event that me and my best friend started doing 2 years ago.  I was doing the video and I was thanking those that had already donated to the cause and I said “Thank you, In Jesus name, Amen”.  I got so tickled at myself.  I was like where did this girl come from. But I have become that prayer lady and I am actually like super excited about it.  Praying has become such a part of me.  I wake up praying, I pray for people that my flesh would really like to punch in the face, I pray for people that I don’t know, I just pray, literally for everything.  But then there was that one day that I didn’t want to pray and this next question slapped me in the face on that very same day.  Keep reading…

So one day I was asked if I get tired of praying for others and my stuff all of the time???  The question threw me but I’m glad that it was a text message and not a face to face question (if you know me you know that my face talks more than the words that come out of my mouth) because it felt like an in my face type of question.  I had a serious gut check when I read that question.  My completely honest, without any tact answer started to come because remember I said I didn’t want to pray that day but I took a second and asked God to please give me an answer and the answer given was “I just do what I am led to do”.  Seems cliché but it is totally the truth.  I pray as I am led to pray.  It was the realest answer for myself because that is literally how my prayer life happened.  I am really not sure what she wanted to hear but that is one of those questions where I wasn’t going to do any follow up or explanation.  I left it at that and I knew that there needed to be no follow up when no follow up questions came (look at God, He knew I wasn’t ready).

Disclaimer:  I AM COMPLETELY AND PERFECTLY HUMAN.

Truth be told I do get in my feelings when I see other people’s prayers being answered, things that they have asked me to pray for getting answered but it doesn’t stop me from praying for them or for me.  One of my friends told me that I have a direct line to God because they received confirmation.  Some days I don’t know about that direct line because I don’t feel like He is answering my prayers.  One of my favorite business women Myleik said something recently that made me stop and think…”Feelings aren’t Facts”.  Just because I don’t feel like He isn’t answering my prayers doesn’t mean that He isn’t answering them.  Some days I still push back and try not to pray but I always get reminded that me not praying is hurting me more than it is hurting God.   Prayer is a necessity like water you have to have it in your life in order to sustain yourself.  It builds relationship with God and that is the most important relationship that you could have in your life.

So when did I become this prayer warrior?  When I really understood that this life I’m living is bigger than me.  That what I go through isn’t for me but for the people that I am called to help.  That this life is to be an example to others.  When I fully understood that, I started to pray so much more purposefully because I knew that He had to be 100% in the mix.  I can’t do this thing by myself.  I don’t mind being a prayer warrior and believe you me I still have my days of push back and I don’t want to pray but I will eventually give in and get the prayer out.  His will is bigger than mine so I have to be obedient to His will and Word.

This post is probably one of the hardest pieces that I have written.  I couldn’t find a balance between being transparent without being too transparent.  I am in a weird place with prayer right now and I know that it is a stretching and patient season for me.  So my prayer is that you will see my heart in this post and understand that PRAYER is totally where its at and you definitely need to develop a prayer life if you haven’t already.  Don’t know where to start just start with the Lord’s prayer in Matthew 6 and moving from there just ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words and thoughts and you will be amazed at how it will start to flow out of you.

I hope this helps some one.  If you need prayer send me an email or call me.  If you want more of these types of posts let me know also.  Leave a comment lets talk…

Until next time, live simply while making it extraordinary.

XOXO,
Zony 🙂

Focus On

I had no idea of what to write about this week so I am literally sitting here writing this post on the very morning that it is due to hit your mailbox.  I haven’t had any creative spurts lately and when I sat down to write for this week nothing was flowing not to mention how exhausted I am from being so focused.  I have post on standby but nothing seemed right to post today.  After such a great response to my post last week “Change Happens” I was like I really need something to follow up that progress of change.  I can’t break this momentum.  So I was stuck needless to say. 

However, I woke up this morning like FOCUS. Now I’ve been going over my notes from church service on Sunday where the topic of the message was “Focus”.  It was such an amazing message and the topic flows right along with last weeks post.  So with change there has to be focus now don’t let this little 5 letter word fool you.  It requires a lot from you.

It takes discipline to focus.
It takes preparation to focus.
It takes obedience to focus.
It takes love to focus.
It takes determination to focus.
It takes forgiveness to focus.
It takes letting go to focus.
It takes faith to focus.

On May 6, 2017, I woke up and was like I want “this” more than I don’t want “this”.  By “this” I mean the life that I have been purposed to live, the life that I have dreamed about living, basically the life that I want for myself and the legacy that I want to leave for my family.  Now I don’t know what happened the the week before that got me to this point but I woke up determined.  My “WHY” in life is greater than me.  My Purpose and the life that I want has become the driving force for me.  I have a lot to prove to myself.  I used to be so mad at people for letting me down but truth be told I was really mad at myself for letting me down and that stopped on May 6th. 

So on that morning I got out of bed and just started.  I honestly had no real plan but I knew I had to take steps and meaningful steps to fuel my purpose, my passion, and my vision.  I realized that no matter what I had going on around me that my focus had to be greater than the distractions.  My focus has to look past my past.  My focus has to look past the present situation.  My focus has to be greater than my excuses and the why I shouldn’t do this or want this.  My focus has to be greater than the fear that has stopped me so many other times.  My focus has to be over 100% at this point in my journey because I want the life that I want too much to let it be anything else.

I was having a honest conversation with my mom last night and I was feeling so discouraged because what I see isn’t matching up to what I want or the vision that I have been given.  I was on the verge of losing my focus and giving up and settling for those things that are right in front of me that would be easy for me to just grab right now and make the best out of it.  But she reminded me that giving up is not an option and settling is not an option.  I’ve had a taste of the life that I want in so many areas and just because it isn’t like that now I know that with my focus, my drive, my determination, my mindset change and with God it is all coming back together better than ever.  The pastor said on Sunday that you can’t let your history keep you from your future.  You have to push past your history.  Yes my past seems to be very present in my life right now but it isn’t and I have to see past that.  My question to you today is … Where is your focus? 

I challenge you today (I am all about a good challenge these days) to evaluate your focus today and decide how bad do you want “IT”.  What are you willing to do to make those things happen in your life?  What are you focused on that could keep you from living and moving in your purpose and accomplishing your goals and dreams?  I see a super amazing future ahead of us all and we just have to be focused enough and believe that we can accomplish it all.

How can I help?  We all need a coach… my mom was my coach this week.  Comment below and let me know what you are focused on and if you need any help or encouragement I am here.

Let’s CHAT!!!!

Until next time, live simply while making it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

Change Happens…

You know the saying “When someone shows you who they are believe them” I hate that saying only because it makes the assumption that people cannot and will not ever change.  We as people are forever changing and evolving hence why we aren’t cave men any longer.  Granted there are those people out there that will not change because they are okay with where they are and what they are doing but the majority of the world in my opinion doesn’t want to be the same all of their life.  People have the right to change and not be confined to their pasts.  I believe in change because I am a prime example of change.  I am forever growing and changing.  I don’t make the same mistakes I used to.  I don’t walk the same path I did 5 or 6 years ago.  I am ever evolving and so are others.  Allow people the opportunity to grow and don’t write them off.  I am a sucker for restoration I learned this from one of my mentors a couple of years ago and when he broke it down to me it made so much sense.  People are allowed to apologize and grow from where they are.  Don’t keep throwing the past up in their face and don’t go looking for them always to disappoint you.

I truly believe in forgiveness there is no need in me holding a grudge and I used to be the QUEEN of holding a grudge but life is too short.  It is time for us to admit when we make a mistake, apologize, forgive, restore and keep going and growing.  When someone shows you who they are just know that they are forever changing and growing.  Be an encouragement to those that need it and don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes and wrong doings just love them and let them grow.   Change happens…

Just my thoughts…

Zony 🙂

Remain

Remain in God
Remain in Jesus
Remain in the Holy Spirit

Remain was a theme of a Bible study that I was doing and although I have been a little slack in getting it completed. It has been a subtle theme around me lately yet a strong reminder that when I start to lose faith and start to doubt myself and what I am purposed to do I have to remain focused, remain determined, remain productive and remain myself.  I have definitely lost myself a couple of times during my life time but I have become very wise in my growing up.  Again growing up sucks but in order to become better you have to grow up.  In order to walk in your purpose you have to grow up.  I am learning this whole responsibility concept on another level (lets be clear I have always been pretty responsible but I have never liked it).  I honestly just want to disappear into a dream most days because it is so much easier there.  But the Bible study has shown me a different way.  Too often we give up and giving up most times only sets us back and prolongs us from getting to our destination.  The road gets rough and tough.  The road gets exhausting.  The road gets dim but you have to remain in Jesus to maintain yourself.  So stay encouraged while walking in your purpose or whatever direction you are trying to move forward in.  Tough times come but they don’t last.  Remain true to you and what you believe in while going through.

Until next time live simply while making it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂