Goal Reboot

Half way through the year and I am feeling pretty amazing.  How are you feeling? I’ll wait…

So this is just a little check up or check in.  I am sure most of you set goals or resolutions this year and I just wanted to take some time to send some encouragement your way.  I have had my moments of giving up within these last six months.  One major thing that keeps me going is my purpose.  I was born for the things that I have been blessed to do such as write these posts, encourage others, build community, and help as many people as I can.  We are all here to serve others but there are different ways to serve and we have to find our own unique way of doing so.  So with all of that being said, I set some goals for this year and I have found a new boost of energy when achieving them.

At the beginning of the year I set my word for the year and it is PREPARE. I definitely feel like I am being prepared for some major things coming up and I have to daily remind myself that with preparation comes patience (impatient as hell), faith and belief.  I’m being tested in all of these right now everyday.  I choose to stay consistent in where God is leading me and take at least one step a day to my goals and dreams.

One major goal was to put more time into building my business and my brand.  I started really putting into practice the scripture “Faith without works is dead”.   I used to be that person that was like if I ask God for it that is all that I need to do to get it.  Foolishness, so not true at all.  I have really started putting in the work. Making sure that I am posting everyday, learning all that I can to make the business better and make it grow. I want Simply My Purpose to be one of the best Purpose coaching boutiques in the world. I have so many dreams and goals tied into this business and I can’t wait to see them all come together.

Another goal is to finish my degree. I have been putting this thing off so much because I don’t have a real reason other than I have times of laziness and I just don’t want to study for the two test that I need to take to complete the process. But recently I had a little bit of a scare when it came to not having my degree (details of that coming in a future post). Thanking God that it didn’t disrupt my next move. But I have set a date to take each test and I am studying for them and plan to have them completed by the middle of the third quarter of this year. Wish me luck !!!!

Another goal was to finish my weight loss challenge from last year. I wanted to lose 60 lbs by the end of 2016 and I made it to 50lbs. I had a few set backs but I am now 4 lbs away from my goal weight and decided to go another 10 lbs to get under 200lbs although I’m not sure about this skinny look on me. But I’m proud and happy all at the same time because I never thought that I would be disciplined enough to do any of this.

I also made a goal to live more, do more and spend more time with family and friends.  The living part has just recently taken off and I’m excited while I thought others were limiting me I realize that I was really limiting myself and I’m hear for the living.  I still don’t do a lot other than working a lot (I got these bills) but I recently just really got on my grind and it is all coming together and easing up.  Hanging with family and friends well I am definitely doing more of that and reaching out more.  I don’t want to be that introverted friend all of the time that’s never around.  So I have started hanging a little more and spending a little more time outside of my home.

Prayer and spending time with God was a major goal for me this year because I be slipping.  I make time with Him daily and I make sure that I am listening more than I am talking.  Building this relationship is the most important thing to me because I have had my doubts as to whether or not He is listening to me and moving around in my life.  But He has shown me over and over again that He is there and He has me covered.  So if I don’t do anything else throughout the day I make sure I give God His time.  What a difference it has made in my life, in my faith, in my relationships, within myself. Truly the best goal that I set for myself.

A couple of ways to get your mojo back with achieving these goals…

  1. Remember your “Why”. Why did you set this goal?  Do you still really want it?  On a scale of 1 to 10 where is it in your priority list? 
  2. Take a step toward the goal.  Just one small step will get you moving again.  JUST ONE!!!! 
  3. Reach out to someone close to you for encouragement and/or a kick in the butt to get moving. 

I have a challenge starting on June 18.  The challenge is called #doitwithpurpose.  For the next 30 days, I am challenging myself, you and everyone else to set one goal that you really want to get done now and post every day one step that you have taken to accomplish that one goal.  The goal for this challenge is to give you the boost that you need to accomplish your goals, to connect you with others that are doing the same thing and to build a community of encouragers.  I am so excited about this challenge.  So we get started on June 18 and with every post use the hashtag #doitwithpurpose and tag me also.  Comment and let me know if you are up for the challenge.

Do you need a reboot in achieving your goals for this year?  Have you fallen off and need some encouragement and guidance? Let me help you, get in touch with me.

Until next time, live simply but extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

7 Ways I Got My Confidence Back

Ever had a day where you looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the person looking back at you.  Well that day came for me and it was a really painful moment in my life.  I had become a shell of a person moving in routine and it was no ones fault but my own.  But that day I realized that I had become mediocre at best and I remember texting two of my best friends and telling them my realization and I was determined to turn it around.  I sat down with my goals and decided to accomplish them and as I became consistent in my life and doing more of what I wanted to do, mediocre started to fade away.  Life isn’t perfect but it is definitely great and worth living. Here are 7 steps to get you started if you are feeling mediocre in your life.

  1. Exercise on a regular basis, I set a goal to lose 60 lbs at the beginning of 2016.  I made sure that I completed some type of physical exercise everyday except for the weekends unless I had some time.  I started to feel off balance if I missed a day.  It was so refreshing for me.  I am proud to say at the end of 2016 I lost 50 lbs. and I am loving the way that my body is looking.  Your girl is sexy around here.
  2. I started focusing on building my business, Simply My Purpose.  I have always wanted to own my own business and I threw myself into learning it, building it and trying to figure it all out one day at a time.
  3. Prayer, Prayer, Prayer…I looked up one day and I had become this prayer warrior.  I started praying everyday literally all day.  Anytime I started doubting myself I prayed, whenever anxiety would start to creep up I prayed.  I didn’t really need too much of a reason to pray.  It just became the normal and still is.  I kind of love it, it saves me and keeps me right on track daily.
  4. I exercised my faith.  My faith in God because He always brings me through no matter what I have done and no matter how I put Him to the side. He is the real MVP in my life and where my confidence is now.  Also, my faith in myself, I’m super strong and I may have my moments of despair but I always come back better than ever.
  5. I am a super introvert but I made myself reach out to my friends, my mentors, and my family.  Being able to vent to them and get encouragement and just be around positive people has definitely brought my confidence level back up to 100. 
  6. I set a number of goals for 2016 and I accomplished 90% of them.  I was super amazed looking back over my vision board and checking those things off plus some things that I didn’t put on my board.  So just knowing that you can set goals and you actually accomplish them is a major confidence booster.
  7. I really have taken the time to get to know myself.  One of my major prayers is “God show me, me as you see me and help me to grow in all areas to be a better me daily.  But God really show me who I am and who I am becoming.”  I spend so much time with myself, writing and just getting to know me again outside of everyone around me. 

I am completely proud of myself and I am completely in love with myself.  Not in a conceited way at all I just know where I was and where I am now and it truly amazes me everyday.  Let me throw this disclaimer out there, none of these steps were easy at all.  But it took me deciding to not be that shell of a person that I saw in the mirror and become who I am now and who I continue to grow into daily.  She who is me is super amazing and if you are struggling with your confidence just know that YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING AS WELL. 

That is all for now and as always thanks for visiting and reading until next time live simply but make it extraordinary!!!

Write me back and let me know how you keep your confidence at 100 or if you need any help from me to get that level to 100. 

Zony 🙂