From the Beginning

It was December 31, 2003 and I was saying “See ya later” to my mom.  I was leaving my mom’s home for good to live on my own.  That was the day that I moved to Atlanta.  I wanted to be in Atlanta when the clock struck 12 a.m. on January 1, 2004.  You know the saying “whatever you are doing when the new year comes in is what you will be doing the rest of the year” and I wanted to be in Atlanta for the rest of the year.  I had a plan almost.  I didn’t have a job yet but this is when I was more carefree and didn’t have any major bills and when being an adult wasn’t that important to me.  Let’s be clear I have never wanted to be an adult.  Some things about it looked fun but most things about it never appealed to me so I have never been here for it.  Since the 9th grade I have always wanted to live in Atlanta, “The City”, is what I would always say.  I never dreamed of leaving near home or anywhere else.  I used to spend time down here during the summers with my Aunt and I fell in love.  Atlanta is the city that there is so much going on but you don’t have to be a part of it all.  I am a homebody for the most part but the fact that I can go somewhere at any given time has always appealed to me.  The city doesn’t completely shut down.  I wish the pictures that I have posted had dates on them but this is just a glimpse of how I set my goals and made them happen.

I moved to Atlanta and knew NOTHING about being an adult.  I had to learn sort of quick but I am still learning every day.  I have been in Atlanta trying to find my way for so many years and I have finally found myself although it will be a process that evolves for the rest of my life.  I left my mom’s home with no idea of who I was as a woman or who I was destined to become.  I had an idea of what I wanted to do but not who I wanted to be.  I just knew that I didn’t want to live in the country for the rest of my life.  I wanted to be a city girl with a country heart and background.  I quickly started to learn what I didn’t like about being an adult and I don’t care to count the many times that I wanted to and threatened myself to move back home to my mom.  But I am a pretty stubborn lady and I have been determined to make it happen for myself down here and it hasn’t changed.  Set back after set back has come but progress has always been made and every time I think it is time to give up God shows me just why it isn’t time for me to quit.  I have always been in a transition.  I used to ask the question most of you are asking now “what is my purpose on this earth?”.  It finally set in that I am here to help others move through the transitions of life and live their purpose in the best way possible. This didn’t finally click completely until this year.   I had the idea a couple of years ago and of course started putting the plan into action last year but it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that it finally became super real and clear to me.  God has a funny way of saying be still and see what I am trying to show you.

I have always been the one who wants to learn my lessons through others.  I don’t like for experience to be my teacher but I will learn from others experiences all day long.  But I had to sit down and really think about everything that I have been through since I have started this journey of becoming an adult and God said it is time for you to share.   So this is the beginning of me becoming more open with you guys and taking you back to the beginning of my journey in Atlanta and becoming an adult.  This will show you why I am qualified to help you on your path to setting goals and living your greatest purpose in life.  I hope that you will stick around and relive this ride with me as I look back at my journal entries and walk back through my journey.

Until next time live life simply while making it extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony

Perfect Ending

Perfect ending to a perfect beginning …

I began a journey with Perfect Image at a time when I didn’t have a lot going for me but I had a lot of ideas of what I wanted to be going on.  I was laid off from a previous job and wasn’t mad about the layoff but a little concerned about the funds for my bills.  I was able to take it easy for a couple of weeks and not go hard in looking for a job.  My severance pay and my support system at the time was really cool.  So I started looking for jobs and getting call backs but not getting the jobs and then the frustration set in.  I don’t know about you but I don’t like having to depend on people a lot for my finances.  But my man at the time knew a man that was hiring so he made the introduction.  I looked good on paper but in real life.  I had bad credit trying to work in a financial field, where they do that at.  Apparently I thought that I was the exception.  I was and I am still working on my degree but again applying for everything in the financial accounting field.  I had no real experience just a resume that said that I was a part of the accounting departments at the companies that I previously worked for.  Like I said I looked good on paper.

So the introduction was made and I went through 3 interviews 2 were pretty smooth I mean I was nervous of course but they were pretty good.  That 3rd interview came and all of those things that were stacked up against me came flooding out and I was so sure that I didn’t have the job.  Well a lot of questions of why my credit was so bad and why I wasn’t finished with my degree and why I thought I could do the job and get paid what I was asking with no real experience and a couple of tears y’all know I’m a softy and I don’t do too well with being confronted about things that I am not ready to deal with.  But guess what I got the job before I left that day. Someone was willing to take a chance on me even when it looked like I would be more of a risk than a reward.  Turns out that the risk was definitely worth it.  I was able to grow and also contribute to the company.

However, I recently was able to say goodbye to Perfect Image and hello to a new opportunity to grow in my career and to make more coins. I honestly thought that with my sassy mouth, rebellious attitude and wanting to create and do things my own way I would have been put out the door before I left on my own but because of most of that I believe that I have created a special place in the heart of Perfect Image and a new way of doing a lot of things. I am leaving my mark. Starting this new journey has me extremely nervous and excited but I am so ready for this new step. This new journey starts with a better credit rating, I am still working on this degree 😐 , a business that I am growing and building, new connections, a new sense of self, I am working on some major goals and I’m doing it on my own well I mean I have a village around me cheering me own and helping along the way but I’m more in charge of my life than I have ever been.

You have to invest in yourself before you can expect others to invest in you.

This new journey will further help me achieve my goals and live my dreams and I am excited about it. I hope that you all will continue on this journey with me. A perfect ending to a perfect beginning … take a chance.  Win or lose you will always learn and be better when you get up and dust yourself off.  Don’t give up on yourself!!!!

As always, keep living simply while making it extraordinary.

XOXO,
Zony 🙂

Goal Reboot

Half way through the year and I am feeling pretty amazing.  How are you feeling? I’ll wait…

So this is just a little check up or check in.  I am sure most of you set goals or resolutions this year and I just wanted to take some time to send some encouragement your way.  I have had my moments of giving up within these last six months.  One major thing that keeps me going is my purpose.  I was born for the things that I have been blessed to do such as write these posts, encourage others, build community, and help as many people as I can.  We are all here to serve others but there are different ways to serve and we have to find our own unique way of doing so.  So with all of that being said, I set some goals for this year and I have found a new boost of energy when achieving them.

At the beginning of the year I set my word for the year and it is PREPARE. I definitely feel like I am being prepared for some major things coming up and I have to daily remind myself that with preparation comes patience (impatient as hell), faith and belief.  I’m being tested in all of these right now everyday.  I choose to stay consistent in where God is leading me and take at least one step a day to my goals and dreams.

One major goal was to put more time into building my business and my brand.  I started really putting into practice the scripture “Faith without works is dead”.   I used to be that person that was like if I ask God for it that is all that I need to do to get it.  Foolishness, so not true at all.  I have really started putting in the work. Making sure that I am posting everyday, learning all that I can to make the business better and make it grow. I want Simply My Purpose to be one of the best Purpose coaching boutiques in the world. I have so many dreams and goals tied into this business and I can’t wait to see them all come together.

Another goal is to finish my degree. I have been putting this thing off so much because I don’t have a real reason other than I have times of laziness and I just don’t want to study for the two test that I need to take to complete the process. But recently I had a little bit of a scare when it came to not having my degree (details of that coming in a future post). Thanking God that it didn’t disrupt my next move. But I have set a date to take each test and I am studying for them and plan to have them completed by the middle of the third quarter of this year. Wish me luck !!!!

Another goal was to finish my weight loss challenge from last year. I wanted to lose 60 lbs by the end of 2016 and I made it to 50lbs. I had a few set backs but I am now 4 lbs away from my goal weight and decided to go another 10 lbs to get under 200lbs although I’m not sure about this skinny look on me. But I’m proud and happy all at the same time because I never thought that I would be disciplined enough to do any of this.

I also made a goal to live more, do more and spend more time with family and friends.  The living part has just recently taken off and I’m excited while I thought others were limiting me I realize that I was really limiting myself and I’m hear for the living.  I still don’t do a lot other than working a lot (I got these bills) but I recently just really got on my grind and it is all coming together and easing up.  Hanging with family and friends well I am definitely doing more of that and reaching out more.  I don’t want to be that introverted friend all of the time that’s never around.  So I have started hanging a little more and spending a little more time outside of my home.

Prayer and spending time with God was a major goal for me this year because I be slipping.  I make time with Him daily and I make sure that I am listening more than I am talking.  Building this relationship is the most important thing to me because I have had my doubts as to whether or not He is listening to me and moving around in my life.  But He has shown me over and over again that He is there and He has me covered.  So if I don’t do anything else throughout the day I make sure I give God His time.  What a difference it has made in my life, in my faith, in my relationships, within myself. Truly the best goal that I set for myself.

A couple of ways to get your mojo back with achieving these goals…

  1. Remember your “Why”. Why did you set this goal?  Do you still really want it?  On a scale of 1 to 10 where is it in your priority list? 
  2. Take a step toward the goal.  Just one small step will get you moving again.  JUST ONE!!!! 
  3. Reach out to someone close to you for encouragement and/or a kick in the butt to get moving. 

I have a challenge starting on June 18.  The challenge is called #doitwithpurpose.  For the next 30 days, I am challenging myself, you and everyone else to set one goal that you really want to get done now and post every day one step that you have taken to accomplish that one goal.  The goal for this challenge is to give you the boost that you need to accomplish your goals, to connect you with others that are doing the same thing and to build a community of encouragers.  I am so excited about this challenge.  So we get started on June 18 and with every post use the hashtag #doitwithpurpose and tag me also.  Comment and let me know if you are up for the challenge.

Do you need a reboot in achieving your goals for this year?  Have you fallen off and need some encouragement and guidance? Let me help you, get in touch with me.

Until next time, live simply but extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂