Prayer Warrior: Who ME?

When did I become a praying person but wait when did I become a prayer warrior?  I woke up one day and was like when did I start praying for everything, all of the time.  I caught it one day when I was doing a live video on Facebook for an outreach event that me and my best friend started doing 2 years ago.  I was doing the video and I was thanking those that had already donated to the cause and I said “Thank you, In Jesus name, Amen”.  I got so tickled at myself.  I was like where did this girl come from. But I have become that prayer lady and I am actually like super excited about it.  Praying has become such a part of me.  I wake up praying, I pray for people that my flesh would really like to punch in the face, I pray for people that I don’t know, I just pray, literally for everything.  But then there was that one day that I didn’t want to pray and this next question slapped me in the face on that very same day.  Keep reading…

So one day I was asked if I get tired of praying for others and my stuff all of the time???  The question threw me but I’m glad that it was a text message and not a face to face question (if you know me you know that my face talks more than the words that come out of my mouth) because it felt like an in my face type of question.  I had a serious gut check when I read that question.  My completely honest, without any tact answer started to come because remember I said I didn’t want to pray that day but I took a second and asked God to please give me an answer and the answer given was “I just do what I am led to do”.  Seems cliché but it is totally the truth.  I pray as I am led to pray.  It was the realest answer for myself because that is literally how my prayer life happened.  I am really not sure what she wanted to hear but that is one of those questions where I wasn’t going to do any follow up or explanation.  I left it at that and I knew that there needed to be no follow up when no follow up questions came (look at God, He knew I wasn’t ready).

Disclaimer:  I AM COMPLETELY AND PERFECTLY HUMAN.

Truth be told I do get in my feelings when I see other people’s prayers being answered, things that they have asked me to pray for getting answered but it doesn’t stop me from praying for them or for me.  One of my friends told me that I have a direct line to God because they received confirmation.  Some days I don’t know about that direct line because I don’t feel like He is answering my prayers.  One of my favorite business women Myleik said something recently that made me stop and think…”Feelings aren’t Facts”.  Just because I don’t feel like He isn’t answering my prayers doesn’t mean that He isn’t answering them.  Some days I still push back and try not to pray but I always get reminded that me not praying is hurting me more than it is hurting God.   Prayer is a necessity like water you have to have it in your life in order to sustain yourself.  It builds relationship with God and that is the most important relationship that you could have in your life.

So when did I become this prayer warrior?  When I really understood that this life I’m living is bigger than me.  That what I go through isn’t for me but for the people that I am called to help.  That this life is to be an example to others.  When I fully understood that, I started to pray so much more purposefully because I knew that He had to be 100% in the mix.  I can’t do this thing by myself.  I don’t mind being a prayer warrior and believe you me I still have my days of push back and I don’t want to pray but I will eventually give in and get the prayer out.  His will is bigger than mine so I have to be obedient to His will and Word.

This post is probably one of the hardest pieces that I have written.  I couldn’t find a balance between being transparent without being too transparent.  I am in a weird place with prayer right now and I know that it is a stretching and patient season for me.  So my prayer is that you will see my heart in this post and understand that PRAYER is totally where its at and you definitely need to develop a prayer life if you haven’t already.  Don’t know where to start just start with the Lord’s prayer in Matthew 6 and moving from there just ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words and thoughts and you will be amazed at how it will start to flow out of you.

I hope this helps some one.  If you need prayer send me an email or call me.  If you want more of these types of posts let me know also.  Leave a comment lets talk…

Until next time, live simply while making it extraordinary.

XOXO,
Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

7 Ways I Got My Confidence Back

Ever had a day where you looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the person looking back at you.  Well that day came for me and it was a really painful moment in my life.  I had become a shell of a person moving in routine and it was no ones fault but my own.  But that day I realized that I had become mediocre at best and I remember texting two of my best friends and telling them my realization and I was determined to turn it around.  I sat down with my goals and decided to accomplish them and as I became consistent in my life and doing more of what I wanted to do, mediocre started to fade away.  Life isn’t perfect but it is definitely great and worth living. Here are 7 steps to get you started if you are feeling mediocre in your life.

  1. Exercise on a regular basis, I set a goal to lose 60 lbs at the beginning of 2016.  I made sure that I completed some type of physical exercise everyday except for the weekends unless I had some time.  I started to feel off balance if I missed a day.  It was so refreshing for me.  I am proud to say at the end of 2016 I lost 50 lbs. and I am loving the way that my body is looking.  Your girl is sexy around here.
  2. I started focusing on building my business, Simply My Purpose.  I have always wanted to own my own business and I threw myself into learning it, building it and trying to figure it all out one day at a time.
  3. Prayer, Prayer, Prayer…I looked up one day and I had become this prayer warrior.  I started praying everyday literally all day.  Anytime I started doubting myself I prayed, whenever anxiety would start to creep up I prayed.  I didn’t really need too much of a reason to pray.  It just became the normal and still is.  I kind of love it, it saves me and keeps me right on track daily.
  4. I exercised my faith.  My faith in God because He always brings me through no matter what I have done and no matter how I put Him to the side. He is the real MVP in my life and where my confidence is now.  Also, my faith in myself, I’m super strong and I may have my moments of despair but I always come back better than ever.
  5. I am a super introvert but I made myself reach out to my friends, my mentors, and my family.  Being able to vent to them and get encouragement and just be around positive people has definitely brought my confidence level back up to 100. 
  6. I set a number of goals for 2016 and I accomplished 90% of them.  I was super amazed looking back over my vision board and checking those things off plus some things that I didn’t put on my board.  So just knowing that you can set goals and you actually accomplish them is a major confidence booster.
  7. I really have taken the time to get to know myself.  One of my major prayers is “God show me, me as you see me and help me to grow in all areas to be a better me daily.  But God really show me who I am and who I am becoming.”  I spend so much time with myself, writing and just getting to know me again outside of everyone around me. 

I am completely proud of myself and I am completely in love with myself.  Not in a conceited way at all I just know where I was and where I am now and it truly amazes me everyday.  Let me throw this disclaimer out there, none of these steps were easy at all.  But it took me deciding to not be that shell of a person that I saw in the mirror and become who I am now and who I continue to grow into daily.  She who is me is super amazing and if you are struggling with your confidence just know that YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING AS WELL. 

That is all for now and as always thanks for visiting and reading until next time live simply but make it extraordinary!!!

Write me back and let me know how you keep your confidence at 100 or if you need any help from me to get that level to 100. 

Zony 🙂

Written Notes


“For when God made a promise to Abraham, because He could swear by no one greater, He swore by Himself, saying, “Surely blessing I will bless you, and multiplying I will multiply you.” And so, after he had patiently endured, he obtained the promise.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭6:13-15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

The promises of God don’t come with a date. They don’t come with instructions on how to get them. They don’t come with any special bow or in any type of gift box. They should actually come with a warning label. Warning may cause anxiety, may cause stress, may cause doubt,  may take most of your life to receive, may not look like you want it to, may not come how you want it to, may take some obedience on your part, may lose some friendships during the process, when you think you’re ready you’re probably not, your hold time is indefinite. But also will cause strength, patience, endurance, growth, trust, faith, preparation, perseverance, peace and happiness if you follow through and wait on God to come through with His promises to you.