Prepared…Me? Not

Being prepared for the move to Atlanta didn’t really take place like it probably should have but it didn’t stop me from moving to the “BIG” city. I have lived here for 13 years and I’ve realized that it isn’t that big. I knew in middle and high school that I was going to move to Atlanta. I had my mind pretty much made up, living in a small town all of my life just didn’t fit me. The only goal that I set for moving was a date, I knew that I wanted to move on January 1,2005. At the time, I was a bank teller with a bank in my hometown in South Carolina and I wasn’t in the best position there.  I made a lot of mistakes on the job so it put me in a probationary situation and I made one mistake during that period and was forced to resign my position. I went into a moment of “I don’t know”.  I needed a job so that I could pay the one bill that I had at the time and to save for my move to Atlanta.  Luckily I built great relationships with a lot of my customers from the bank along with my co-workers and they really looked out for me. So one of my customers offered me a job which ended up being a great opportunity for me.  I was able to stay within the Finance field, learn some managerial duties and work with one of the major accounting software programs in the world. I was super excited. During this time I realized that this was my shot, my chance to make the move to Atlanta. I called my aunt who lives here and asked if I could move in with her until I found my own place and she said yes “Thank you Jesus”.

My original plan was to move to Atlanta in a year but this pushed the move up by a year.  So on December 31, 2003 I moved to Atlanta with no job and no savings… two huge problems. The company that I was working with at the time in South Carolina was super flexible and allowed me to work for them 3 days out of the week and the rest of the week I spent in Atlanta going to job interviews, temp agencies and learning the city.  After about 3 months I had two job offers and I was floating on cloud 9 because before those job offers came in I was thinking about moving back to SC.  I was tired of driving back and forth between Atlanta and Belton every week and I still had bills that needed to be paid.  But thank God two jobs came through and I took the 9-5, sometimes I look back and ask myself if I should have taken the other job as well but can’t go back and change that now. I am so grateful for the woman that took a chance on me.  She was very cool and she gave me my first glimpse of entrepreneurship.  The puzzle of my life started to take shape with her help.

Since I can remember I have always wanted my own business but never knew what it really looked like. I didn’t grow up around a bunch of entrepreneurs. My great grandfather owned and operated his own barber shop but at that time I was just concerned with being a kid. So on River St. is where it started and I knew for sure that I wanted to have my own business.  Now I’m working, still have no savings and bills are super behind.  However this post is to reflect how I gave no thought to what I didn’t have prior to moving here but moved here with no fear and was willing to do whatever it took to make it.

Preparing didn’t matter to me then I threw caution to the wind and took that leap of faith and trusted that I would be just fine no matter what. Never mind the fact that I really had no real understanding of what responsibility looked like or even felt like.  Before moving to Atlanta I paid a car note and the rest of the money was mine to deal with.  Now I have a car note, rent, gas, food and anything else that I may need or want and although my mom was still willing to help it just wasn’t as easy.

Now in 2017 being prepared looks like a lot of overthinking everything and not accomplishing anything. I’m training myself to not think so much about the steps that I want to take and the goals that I want to accomplish because for every one reason I have to do it I will think of 3 reasons not to do it and those reasons will stop me from moving forward. Throwing caution to the wind, believing in my dreams and goals and being prepared but overthinking has to go. Being prepared looks different for everyone. You have to find your level of being prepared and remember that no matter how prepared you may be there will always be something to throw you off just a little bit. That is a test to see how bad you want it. Don’t give up just keep going.

Sometimes you just have to prepare as you go …

One major thing that I have started doing is asking God the question…Is “this” (whatever your this is) what you want me to do?  He will answer you if you really want to know and are ready to listen.

What are some ways that you prepare or move forward with your life?

I hope this post was helpful and that you could relate and until next time live life simply while making it extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony  🙂

From the Beginning

It was December 31, 2003 and I was saying “See ya later” to my mom.  I was leaving my mom’s home for good to live on my own.  That was the day that I moved to Atlanta.  I wanted to be in Atlanta when the clock struck 12 a.m. on January 1, 2004.  You know the saying “whatever you are doing when the new year comes in is what you will be doing the rest of the year” and I wanted to be in Atlanta for the rest of the year.  I had a plan almost.  I didn’t have a job yet but this is when I was more carefree and didn’t have any major bills and when being an adult wasn’t that important to me.  Let’s be clear I have never wanted to be an adult.  Some things about it looked fun but most things about it never appealed to me so I have never been here for it.  Since the 9th grade I have always wanted to live in Atlanta, “The City”, is what I would always say.  I never dreamed of leaving near home or anywhere else.  I used to spend time down here during the summers with my Aunt and I fell in love.  Atlanta is the city that there is so much going on but you don’t have to be a part of it all.  I am a homebody for the most part but the fact that I can go somewhere at any given time has always appealed to me.  The city doesn’t completely shut down.  I wish the pictures that I have posted had dates on them but this is just a glimpse of how I set my goals and made them happen.

I moved to Atlanta and knew NOTHING about being an adult.  I had to learn sort of quick but I am still learning every day.  I have been in Atlanta trying to find my way for so many years and I have finally found myself although it will be a process that evolves for the rest of my life.  I left my mom’s home with no idea of who I was as a woman or who I was destined to become.  I had an idea of what I wanted to do but not who I wanted to be.  I just knew that I didn’t want to live in the country for the rest of my life.  I wanted to be a city girl with a country heart and background.  I quickly started to learn what I didn’t like about being an adult and I don’t care to count the many times that I wanted to and threatened myself to move back home to my mom.  But I am a pretty stubborn lady and I have been determined to make it happen for myself down here and it hasn’t changed.  Set back after set back has come but progress has always been made and every time I think it is time to give up God shows me just why it isn’t time for me to quit.  I have always been in a transition.  I used to ask the question most of you are asking now “what is my purpose on this earth?”.  It finally set in that I am here to help others move through the transitions of life and live their purpose in the best way possible. This didn’t finally click completely until this year.   I had the idea a couple of years ago and of course started putting the plan into action last year but it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that it finally became super real and clear to me.  God has a funny way of saying be still and see what I am trying to show you.

I have always been the one who wants to learn my lessons through others.  I don’t like for experience to be my teacher but I will learn from others experiences all day long.  But I had to sit down and really think about everything that I have been through since I have started this journey of becoming an adult and God said it is time for you to share.   So this is the beginning of me becoming more open with you guys and taking you back to the beginning of my journey in Atlanta and becoming an adult.  This will show you why I am qualified to help you on your path to setting goals and living your greatest purpose in life.  I hope that you will stick around and relive this ride with me as I look back at my journal entries and walk back through my journey.

Until next time live life simply while making it extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony

Written Notes 

There are two sides of a process … You will always have to go through the rough side to grow and get to the bright side to enjoy and prosper … It’s called endurance.