Change Happens…

You know the saying “When someone shows you who they are believe them” I hate that saying only because it makes the assumption that people cannot and will not ever change.  We as people are forever changing and evolving hence why we aren’t cave men any longer.  Granted there are those people out there that will not change because they are okay with where they are and what they are doing but the majority of the world in my opinion doesn’t want to be the same all of their life.  People have the right to change and not be confined to their pasts.  I believe in change because I am a prime example of change.  I am forever growing and changing.  I don’t make the same mistakes I used to.  I don’t walk the same path I did 5 or 6 years ago.  I am ever evolving and so are others.  Allow people the opportunity to grow and don’t write them off.  I am a sucker for restoration I learned this from one of my mentors a couple of years ago and when he broke it down to me it made so much sense.  People are allowed to apologize and grow from where they are.  Don’t keep throwing the past up in their face and don’t go looking for them always to disappoint you.

I truly believe in forgiveness there is no need in me holding a grudge and I used to be the QUEEN of holding a grudge but life is too short.  It is time for us to admit when we make a mistake, apologize, forgive, restore and keep going and growing.  When someone shows you who they are just know that they are forever changing and growing.  Be an encouragement to those that need it and don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes and wrong doings just love them and let them grow.   Change happens…

Just my thoughts…

Zony 🙂

Setting Your Goals and Crushing Them

The general universal rule to setting goals is to set them SMART:  Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Timely.  This method is tried and true for most people in most instances.  However, I am different and using this method, only made goal setting more complicated for me.  One day I was reading Nicole Antionette’s blog and she had an exercise to help you set goals and I tried it. There were a lot of steps to her process. I liked some of it I and made it work for me.  In 2012, I started developing my own system of setting goals and it has been a real hit for me.  I have to be honest though, I have never completed 100% of my goals in any given year but I have gotten more done with the exercise I am about share than years before.  I am excited to finally have my system on paper and see it working for others.

I ultimately take this exercise to a vision board and I love how it comes together.  For a couple of years I tried to do the traditional vision board with the magazine clippings and it never worked for me.  It just really seemed all over the place and dysfunctional; in turn, my year would reflect that.

I am going to break the steps down for you and give you a little instruction on how to use the workbook so that you will be able to utilize it in the best way.

Step 1:  Reflection

I take some time to reflect on the past year. I think about all that I have accomplished and what I need to continue to work on. What I could have done differently and what I will take with me in the future. It gives you a chance to reassess the goals that you set.

Step 2:  Purpose Areas

Purpose areas are the main areas of your life that you want to set goals for such as career, health, love, family and so on.  Additionally, those areas are where you want to grow and build.  Within these areas, decide on 3 to 4 points of action for each one.

Step 3: Core Words

When you finish building your purpose areas, go back through them and come up with a core word for the year.  I like to set a word for my year to live up to and practice for everyday living. Over the years I have used growth, brave, consistent, for example.  This works so well for me – it’s amazing how seeing that word everyday reinforces your actions for the day.

For 2016 my word of focus has been “consistent”.  Each area of my board required me to be consistent with each task.  They weren’t tasks that just required me to do one thing one time but more of required daily tasks to get closer to my goal. I didn’t plan it that way but I am glad that it came together that way because I have been known to not follow through with things and this required me to.  As I reflect back on this year it has definitely been an overall good year with its sprinkle of not so good things.

Step 4: Feelings, Feelings, Feelings

How do you want to feel during the year?  This is one of my favorite steps.  When I am building my vision board, I will choose colors, stickers, scriptures, sayings and shapes that will reflect how I want to feel for the year.  Not only am I reinforcing my core word when I look at the vision board but I am reinforcing how I want every day to feel for the year.  Do I want to feel accomplished, happy, loved, creative…so many options.

Step 5: Vision Board Creation

Now the fun part. It is time to get creative and put together your vision board. There are so many ways you can do it. My suggestion is to make it easy to follow for you.  See below for some examples of different ways to put it together. Take some pieces from them but ultimately make it your own.

Now comes the good part, I am making this workbook available to you for free…Yep FREE!!!  I spent some time getting it like I wanted it and I have tested it on others and it has worked for them as well.  So I am excited for you to get it and get to work on your goals and dreams.  What are you waiting for?

Send me an email at hello@simplymypurpose.com and type “GOALS” in the subject line, hit send and I will get your workbook right to you.

Happy planning…send me pictures of your boards when you finished them and if you have any questions please feel free to reach out.  I am always willing to help.

Can’t wait to hear from you,

Zony 🙂

 

 

#simplythankful


As I was thinking about what to really post about daily for the month of November I was a little torn between continuing with quotes or doing a challenge. I decided to go with the challenge. So the challenge is to post daily what I am thankful for. With Hope & Warmth with a Purpose 2016 right around the corner I have been thinking about everything that I take for granted that someone else would be so happy to have. So starting today with the hashtag #simplythankful I will be posting everything that I am thankful for whether by video, graphic, written post. I challenge you to join me #simplythankful. Example: Today I am thankful for the opportunity to challenge myself and challenge others to recognize the little things that we take for granted. #simplythankful What are you thankful for?

Satisfied Versus Settling

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If being satisfied for you means settling for me then I will never be satisfied…

People have told me that I’m never satisfied and when they would say it I would question myself and really wonder if I was asking for too much. But what I realized one morning is that my satisfied and their satisfied doesn’t represent the same thing. You may be OK with just having ham on your sandwich but I want ham, cheese and mayo. We all want things done our way and granted that isn’t going to happen all of the time but it doesn’t stop you from wanting what you want. If I want my grass cut a certain way and I’m paying you for it then please cut it the way that I ask you to. Your satisfied could mean settling to me and my satisfied could mean too much for you and I’m not about settling because I’m destined for so much more and so are you if you look past what’s in front of you.

Moral of this short post…Never let someone make you feel bad for wanting the life that you want for yourself.  Your vision is not their vision.

Are you satisfied or settling for where you are in your life?
Until next time live life simply but make it extraordinary.
XO,
Zony

 

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Growing Through

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“Is it me?? A question I constantly ask myself … Insecure in my own thoughts. Insecure in all that I do and say and try to process… Always over processing and over analyzing and killing myself in my own head. Crazy thoughts that I go through. It’s always an evaluation in my head. Ongoing … How do I make it stop? Comfortable on the outside but so many questions on the inside. How am I able to be transparent in a safe place? Who am I really safe with? Right now I don’t even feel safe with myself. Always looking for another something another beginning another another and another. How do I get through this? Keeping everything in as to not burden anyone else but who’s always there to lend a listening ear to help or just be a comfort. Where is my comfort? Trusting and listening always smiling but for what is life like this … A roller coaster just ready to get to the end of this ride and walk away 100% confident. Walking into some situations with my eyes wide open knowing it’s not for me but at the same time because I know what’s going to happen gives me some kind of peace. Walking into other situations trusting and not knowing and then getting hurt because I didn’t know what was a head of me. Always ready for a risk but only those that I can kind of control. Headaches come and stay because I seek a box to keep myself to keep my surroundings controlled. Is it me??? Shrugs… Got to get out of my own head … Smh at myself.”

I posted this on my first blog in 2014…my my my I have come a long way.  Today feeling a lot more confident in who I am and knowing exactly what I want in life.  My purpose is clearer than ever although some times I do stop and ask God if He is sure (I still have my moments).  Life is funny sometimes and I have really started to embrace everything that comes my way good and bad(even if I don’t like it).  If I resist it only hinders my progress and I am tired of being stuck because I want to be rebellious to what I don’t like going on at the moment.  Disclaimer:  I am a super rebellious person.  So anything that doesn’t fit into my vision I am not here for it.  I am getting better though, one day at a time.  Back to the post, I realized in reading my previous post that my purpose requires me to hold other people up more than they are going to hold me up.  Everyone that you are meant to hold down isn’t meant to hold you down.  Your confidence doesn’t depend on them or anyone else.  Love yourself because it is best for you and it makes for a better life.

Your life should reflect confidence, boldness, and braveness no matter what your purpose is.  Although it is a daily decision you have to make it and walk in it.  Do know that distractions are going to come but that is when you fight harder for what you want.

I want my friends, family and clients to know that they can always count on me to hold them down no matter what they are going through and when that moment of realization hit I was completely OK with where I am going and the situations that I have been through.  You have to get to a point where you realize that your life is so much bigger than you because it isn’t for you.  You are here for the growth of others and when you accept that I think you will go through life a little less stressed, worried, and unhappy.  I will probably mention this more often because we have to be reminded that when things hit us its just a growing spurt for us to help someone that is coming behind us.  Let your resilience shine through.  Embrace it all and grow.

I hope this helped someone…Comment and let me know what you are dealing with and let me hold you down while you grow through.

Until next time continue to live simply while making it extraordinary.

XO,

Zony

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