Perfect Ending

Perfect ending to a perfect beginning …

I began a journey with Perfect Image at a time when I didn’t have a lot going for me but I had a lot of ideas of what I wanted to be going on.  I was laid off from a previous job and wasn’t mad about the layoff but a little concerned about the funds for my bills.  I was able to take it easy for a couple of weeks and not go hard in looking for a job.  My severance pay and my support system at the time was really cool.  So I started looking for jobs and getting call backs but not getting the jobs and then the frustration set in.  I don’t know about you but I don’t like having to depend on people a lot for my finances.  But my man at the time knew a man that was hiring so he made the introduction.  I looked good on paper but in real life.  I had bad credit trying to work in a financial field, where they do that at.  Apparently I thought that I was the exception.  I was and I am still working on my degree but again applying for everything in the financial accounting field.  I had no real experience just a resume that said that I was a part of the accounting departments at the companies that I previously worked for.  Like I said I looked good on paper.

So the introduction was made and I went through 3 interviews 2 were pretty smooth I mean I was nervous of course but they were pretty good.  That 3rd interview came and all of those things that were stacked up against me came flooding out and I was so sure that I didn’t have the job.  Well a lot of questions of why my credit was so bad and why I wasn’t finished with my degree and why I thought I could do the job and get paid what I was asking with no real experience and a couple of tears y’all know I’m a softy and I don’t do too well with being confronted about things that I am not ready to deal with.  But guess what I got the job before I left that day. Someone was willing to take a chance on me even when it looked like I would be more of a risk than a reward.  Turns out that the risk was definitely worth it.  I was able to grow and also contribute to the company.

However, I recently was able to say goodbye to Perfect Image and hello to a new opportunity to grow in my career and to make more coins. I honestly thought that with my sassy mouth, rebellious attitude and wanting to create and do things my own way I would have been put out the door before I left on my own but because of most of that I believe that I have created a special place in the heart of Perfect Image and a new way of doing a lot of things. I am leaving my mark. Starting this new journey has me extremely nervous and excited but I am so ready for this new step. This new journey starts with a better credit rating, I am still working on this degree 😐 , a business that I am growing and building, new connections, a new sense of self, I am working on some major goals and I’m doing it on my own well I mean I have a village around me cheering me own and helping along the way but I’m more in charge of my life than I have ever been.

You have to invest in yourself before you can expect others to invest in you.

This new journey will further help me achieve my goals and live my dreams and I am excited about it. I hope that you all will continue on this journey with me. A perfect ending to a perfect beginning … take a chance.  Win or lose you will always learn and be better when you get up and dust yourself off.  Don’t give up on yourself!!!!

As always, keep living simply while making it extraordinary.

XOXO,
Zony 🙂

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In a perfect world …
We would all wear smiles, genuine smiles

We would all help each other no matter what

There would be no broken hearts

There would be no outsiders 

There would be understanding and wisdom flowing 

There would be no regrets 

There would be acknowledgement of God at all times 

Eve would have never eaten the apple and convinced Adam to as well

We would be free of sin and anguish

We would have everything that we needed and wanted 

There would be no debt 

There would be no shortage of love 

There would be no wars

There would be no shortage of resources and givers 

There would be no drama and mess 

In a perfect world…

Goal Reboot

Half way through the year and I am feeling pretty amazing.  How are you feeling? I’ll wait…

So this is just a little check up or check in.  I am sure most of you set goals or resolutions this year and I just wanted to take some time to send some encouragement your way.  I have had my moments of giving up within these last six months.  One major thing that keeps me going is my purpose.  I was born for the things that I have been blessed to do such as write these posts, encourage others, build community, and help as many people as I can.  We are all here to serve others but there are different ways to serve and we have to find our own unique way of doing so.  So with all of that being said, I set some goals for this year and I have found a new boost of energy when achieving them.

At the beginning of the year I set my word for the year and it is PREPARE. I definitely feel like I am being prepared for some major things coming up and I have to daily remind myself that with preparation comes patience (impatient as hell), faith and belief.  I’m being tested in all of these right now everyday.  I choose to stay consistent in where God is leading me and take at least one step a day to my goals and dreams.

One major goal was to put more time into building my business and my brand.  I started really putting into practice the scripture “Faith without works is dead”.   I used to be that person that was like if I ask God for it that is all that I need to do to get it.  Foolishness, so not true at all.  I have really started putting in the work. Making sure that I am posting everyday, learning all that I can to make the business better and make it grow. I want Simply My Purpose to be one of the best Purpose coaching boutiques in the world. I have so many dreams and goals tied into this business and I can’t wait to see them all come together.

Another goal is to finish my degree. I have been putting this thing off so much because I don’t have a real reason other than I have times of laziness and I just don’t want to study for the two test that I need to take to complete the process. But recently I had a little bit of a scare when it came to not having my degree (details of that coming in a future post). Thanking God that it didn’t disrupt my next move. But I have set a date to take each test and I am studying for them and plan to have them completed by the middle of the third quarter of this year. Wish me luck !!!!

Another goal was to finish my weight loss challenge from last year. I wanted to lose 60 lbs by the end of 2016 and I made it to 50lbs. I had a few set backs but I am now 4 lbs away from my goal weight and decided to go another 10 lbs to get under 200lbs although I’m not sure about this skinny look on me. But I’m proud and happy all at the same time because I never thought that I would be disciplined enough to do any of this.

I also made a goal to live more, do more and spend more time with family and friends.  The living part has just recently taken off and I’m excited while I thought others were limiting me I realize that I was really limiting myself and I’m hear for the living.  I still don’t do a lot other than working a lot (I got these bills) but I recently just really got on my grind and it is all coming together and easing up.  Hanging with family and friends well I am definitely doing more of that and reaching out more.  I don’t want to be that introverted friend all of the time that’s never around.  So I have started hanging a little more and spending a little more time outside of my home.

Prayer and spending time with God was a major goal for me this year because I be slipping.  I make time with Him daily and I make sure that I am listening more than I am talking.  Building this relationship is the most important thing to me because I have had my doubts as to whether or not He is listening to me and moving around in my life.  But He has shown me over and over again that He is there and He has me covered.  So if I don’t do anything else throughout the day I make sure I give God His time.  What a difference it has made in my life, in my faith, in my relationships, within myself. Truly the best goal that I set for myself.

A couple of ways to get your mojo back with achieving these goals…

  1. Remember your “Why”. Why did you set this goal?  Do you still really want it?  On a scale of 1 to 10 where is it in your priority list? 
  2. Take a step toward the goal.  Just one small step will get you moving again.  JUST ONE!!!! 
  3. Reach out to someone close to you for encouragement and/or a kick in the butt to get moving. 

I have a challenge starting on June 18.  The challenge is called #doitwithpurpose.  For the next 30 days, I am challenging myself, you and everyone else to set one goal that you really want to get done now and post every day one step that you have taken to accomplish that one goal.  The goal for this challenge is to give you the boost that you need to accomplish your goals, to connect you with others that are doing the same thing and to build a community of encouragers.  I am so excited about this challenge.  So we get started on June 18 and with every post use the hashtag #doitwithpurpose and tag me also.  Comment and let me know if you are up for the challenge.

Do you need a reboot in achieving your goals for this year?  Have you fallen off and need some encouragement and guidance? Let me help you, get in touch with me.

Until next time, live simply but extraordinary.

Xoxo,

Zony 🙂

Change Happens…

You know the saying “When someone shows you who they are believe them” I hate that saying only because it makes the assumption that people cannot and will not ever change.  We as people are forever changing and evolving hence why we aren’t cave men any longer.  Granted there are those people out there that will not change because they are okay with where they are and what they are doing but the majority of the world in my opinion doesn’t want to be the same all of their life.  People have the right to change and not be confined to their pasts.  I believe in change because I am a prime example of change.  I am forever growing and changing.  I don’t make the same mistakes I used to.  I don’t walk the same path I did 5 or 6 years ago.  I am ever evolving and so are others.  Allow people the opportunity to grow and don’t write them off.  I am a sucker for restoration I learned this from one of my mentors a couple of years ago and when he broke it down to me it made so much sense.  People are allowed to apologize and grow from where they are.  Don’t keep throwing the past up in their face and don’t go looking for them always to disappoint you.

I truly believe in forgiveness there is no need in me holding a grudge and I used to be the QUEEN of holding a grudge but life is too short.  It is time for us to admit when we make a mistake, apologize, forgive, restore and keep going and growing.  When someone shows you who they are just know that they are forever changing and growing.  Be an encouragement to those that need it and don’t keep reminding them of their mistakes and wrong doings just love them and let them grow.   Change happens…

Just my thoughts…

Zony 🙂

Remain

Remain in God
Remain in Jesus
Remain in the Holy Spirit

Remain was a theme of a Bible study that I was doing and although I have been a little slack in getting it completed. It has been a subtle theme around me lately yet a strong reminder that when I start to lose faith and start to doubt myself and what I am purposed to do I have to remain focused, remain determined, remain productive and remain myself.  I have definitely lost myself a couple of times during my life time but I have become very wise in my growing up.  Again growing up sucks but in order to become better you have to grow up.  In order to walk in your purpose you have to grow up.  I am learning this whole responsibility concept on another level (lets be clear I have always been pretty responsible but I have never liked it).  I honestly just want to disappear into a dream most days because it is so much easier there.  But the Bible study has shown me a different way.  Too often we give up and giving up most times only sets us back and prolongs us from getting to our destination.  The road gets rough and tough.  The road gets exhausting.  The road gets dim but you have to remain in Jesus to maintain yourself.  So stay encouraged while walking in your purpose or whatever direction you are trying to move forward in.  Tough times come but they don’t last.  Remain true to you and what you believe in while going through.

Until next time live simply while making it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂

“Pride Ain’t Power”: Just A Little Honesty

I was having what I thought was a “grown up” conversation with someone recently.  Without going into details what I was reminded of from this conversation is that our pride will have us thinking that we are in control when we are literally spinning out of control. We want to have control so much that sometimes we don’t see that it is hindering us more than helping us.  I learned about myself very early on that I am a super prideful person so I recognize when I am spinning and I can catch it.  It has taken me a while to get to a place where I am okay with humbling myself.  I am okay with apologizing and recognizing that I am not always right and there is always room for me to grow.  It has become easier for me to apologize than to hold on to a grudge because it is healthier for me.   At some point during the conversation I realized that it wasn’t going anywhere because I saw the pride in the other person (you see it you got it) and the conversation wasn’t going to go anywhere because they wanted complete control.  So I decided to leave, not mad, I just understood.  You don’t keep bumping your head against a wall and think that it is going to hurt any less the next time.

I say this to say…sometimes you have to know when to say when and not get drawn into situations or traits that you have grown out of. Don’t let your pride get you in a situation that you can’t get out of because you don’t want to humble yourself.  Humbling yourself isn’t a sign of weakness…it is actually the complete opposite.  You are no less of a woman or man for apologizing or for recognizing that you don’t know it all or that someone may know a better way.  Pride isn’t a terrible thing it just gets in the way when you don’t know how/when to let it go.  It isn’t for every situation.  Don’t miss your blessing because you are being prideful.  One thing my granddaddy used to say to me when we used to have to ride in my mama’s pinto (I hated that car) … “A humble ride is better than a prideful walk any day” and I completely believe that.  My pride has cost me so many opportunities in my life and I am not trying to let it take anything else from me.  “Pride ain’t power” (“Australia” the movie).

Now notice I said that I learned early on that I am prideful but it has taken me years to understand it and deal with it.  I don’t have a list of steps to take to get a grip on your pride.  I still struggle with it on a daily basis and my solution is prayer.  I recognize when it is building up to an uncomfortable level.  I used to be okay with the uncomfortable level it didn’t bother me because I didn’t recognize it as a problem but going through a series of humbling events has helped me to recognize that the uncomfortable isn’t normal and I shouldn’t be okay with it and neither should you.

Proverbs 11:2 – When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

Get in touch with me if you are having prideful moments and don’t know how to get yourself out of them.  It is okay to talk to someone about them.  Examine where your pride has cost you something major in your life and ask yourself if it was worth it.

Until next time, live life simply but make it extraordinary.

Zony 🙂